Change Your State
“Today, like every other day, we
wake up empty and scared.
Don’t go into your study and begin reading.
Take down an instrument.
Let the beauty we love be what we do.
There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the earth.
The great mystic poet Rumi had this response to emotional challenges 800 or so years ago.
His counsel is relevant today. When I feel bummed, I remember his warning against reading followed by encouragement to take down an instrument…to take action that returns us to beauty.
When I feel empty and scared (anxious and stressful) I try to follow his advice. I take action that Changes My State. I have learned that thinking & emotional processing alone is insufficient. Certainly it’s helpful to identify or name the troubling issue; it’s also helpful to understand and take responsibility for my participation in creating the problem. These activities that may produce clarity and insight. But to feel better, I need to Change My State, which then changes my experience.
The downside of psychological savvy is that we mistake emotional broadcasting for emotional health. The effect of this misunderstanding is confusion, which makes everything worse. When we think we’re taking the proper approach to solving a problem and it doesn’t work, we get confused, frustrated and angry which increases our stress and anxiety.
My spiritual teacher responds to someone who feels aggression and frustration not by suggesting they meditate, but by giving them a hammer and nails suggesting they go fix the roof.
Yesterday my friend gave me this photograph of a beautiful mountain in Indonesia, taken with an IPhone, of course. He gains emotional strength from simply being in this beautiful physical place. He Changes His State by changing his environment.
He has been the beneficiary of good counseling, coaching, therapy which doesn’t just stop with insight, but follows insight with action.
We don’t need to travel to Indonesia to achieve emotional strength. We can do it right where we are, today.
Here are three actions you might consider to Change Your State.
1. Get physically strong. An acupuncturist once told me: “When the body
is weak, you cry all the time. When the body is strong, you are happy.”
2. Don’t mistake emotional broadcasting for expressing feeling. Emotionalism
is NOT feeling. True feeling is often more subtle and may need quiet containment
3. Every day seek out one beautiful moment. This can be a physical place,
reading a poem, listening to some music (I listened to Springsteen’s
entire The Rising last night while cooking — it was So Great!).
My brother always says: Beauty is Not an Option.
Rock On Everyone.
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